Should You Invite Old Friends to Your Wedding?
Posted February 18, 2020
Tags: wedding planning & wedding etiquette
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This is just another question that may arise when creating your guest list! Should you invite old friends to your wedding - YES or NO?
Sadly there is no size fits all rule. The best thing to do is thing about each person on a case-by-case basis, and truly think about whether you want them at the day (or if you're just being nice!).
Split your maybe-guests into two different lists - yes and no.
Yes List
If you know that you want someone there but you have just drifted apart over the years, then you definitely should invite them. A wedding invitation can be a great way to break the silence and get back in touch.
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You may wish to include a thoughtful note with the invitation or save the date to say that you really hope they can make it. They're sure to appreciate it!
No List
If you know that you're only inviting someone to be nice, then do yourself a favour and stick them straight in the no list!
Don't worry about things being awkward - if you never see them, then it's not going to be awkward.
Unsure List
Think about when you last contacted the person - a good rule to follow is the 'one year rule'. If you haven't spoken to them in over one year and aren't really planning to, then don't invite them.
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You could perhaps send these old friends an evening invitation - it's a thoughtful way to show you care without being too much.
At the end of the day, you will probably want your special day to be with those who are nearest and dearest. So do you really want some guests that you'll never see again there?
You may be thinking 'but they invited me to their wedding!'. Does this now mean you're obliged to invite them to yours?
The short answer is no! If they invited you to their wedding, then it probably is a nice thing to do. But at the end of the day it is your decision, and you should do what makes you happiest.
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If they invited you to their wedding within the past year or so, then seriously consider sending them an invite. For weddings that were years ago, the same rule definitely does not apply.
We hope you have found this blog useful! For more help creating your wedding guest list (and tips, tricks, and inspiration), check out our other blogs.